Ask Aviva: Stop bullying my granddaughter!

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 Dear Aviva,

My granddaughter is in 3rd grade and is being bullied by Chani, a neighbor of hers. I have personally witnessed it and it is clear that my granddaughter, Tzippi, is not at fault. Thankfully, this bully is not in class with Tzippi, but they are on the same bus. Tzippi is teased mercilessly and it breaks my heart. My daughter has contacted the school, but I think that she should be calling Chani’s mother. My daughter says that it’s not worth it, but I think that it’s the only way to see a change. I was wondering where you would stand with this matter. Your advice is much appreciated.

— Bubby Against Bullies

Dear Bubby Against Bullies,

I would hate to have to tangle with those ruthless Bubbies who are actually pro-bullies. Ouch! I’m glad you’re on the right side of the fence here. But let’s make sure that you are fully against bullies. If you don’t mind, I would like to ask some tangential questions before addressing the meat of the Tzippi/Chani issue. How often do you talk to your daughter about the bullying? Who brings it up, you or her? And how is it brought up? What is your body language when you are talking? Are there raised voices? Any name-calling or threats?

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