Ask Aviva: Single, but not unhappy about it

Dear Aviva,

I’m a 25-year-old male living in the Jewish community. I’ve got my own apartment and my own circle of friends and everything’s going great. But everywhere I go, I’m having an adult conversation with people, until they find out I’m single and then suddenly they pop the question. “So are you seeing anyone these days?”

I just got out of a relationship and I don’t mind being single for a little while. I like the freedom that being single affords me; the ability to travel and see the world and do things that I enjoy doing, things I can’t do once I get married. It seems that no one can understand. Why can’t we act like adults about this whole dating thing and respect people’s choices?  

—Staying Single

Dear Staying Single,

Wow, I wish you could bottle your attitude and sell it to the rest of your cohorts! Seriously, it is so refreshing to hear that a single actually enjoys his life. Well, okay, actually it’s not so surprising, given your Y chromosome. I’ve come across many single guys who love their stage. I just wish that we can spread this across the gender divide. I recall a very young single woman who was desperately bawling, “I just want to get M-M-MARRIED!” This weighted plea is echoed in the hearts of too many single women out there A miserable single does not magically transform into an exuberant married person. While setting people up and being marriage minded are important steps to making a match, I would like to propose something novel and counter-intuitive, so listen up you singles: